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There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they are bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do We. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to not get what they say the wrong way, or work with a little more patience around them, due to the fact their personalities or styles are very different from mine. I find it worth the work, because our differences stretch me a bit, and enrich my entire life and understanding in ways that a lot more similar people don’t. Challenging interactions can be the most rewarding, when I realize they have a purpose.

second . Choose a mirror: Select one of the most difficult people on the list, and think about your interaction with that person. What do you would like from him or her? Do you want to be recognized? To be respected? To be left on your own? To be appreciated? To be cared regarding?

3. Relate it to yourself: Now consider how to give to your self what you want from the other person. If you want to be left alone, do you depart yourself alone? If you want to be reliable, do you trust yourself? If you want to be heard, do you listen to your own self? If you want to be important, are you important to a person?

6. Do your part: Take responsibility for your part of the romantic relationship. Keeping in mind that no one can struggle with a person if you don’t struggle back, consider what you should do to remove yourself from the romantic relationship problem. Remember, no matter what’s happening, you have control over your own actions – you can choose not to participate in any kind of situation that is destructive or counter productive.

From It Ends Along with you: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction © 2004 Tina N. Tessina

Author’ s Bio:

Tina B. Tessina, Ph level. D. is a licensed psychotherapist within S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in seventeen languages, including It Ends Along with you: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Battling About the Three Things That Can Wreck Your Marriage, The Commuter Relationship, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Doctor Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever. com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and manual couples through the various stages of the relationship with personalized tips, programs, and online couples counseling. On-line, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Doctor Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC Information.

postheadericon Choosing the Best Wedding Photographer for Your Special Day


Are you getting ready for the most exciting day of your life? Getting the perfect pictures will be an integral part of the experience, providing you with sweet memories to go over again and again.

Choosing the right wedding photographer is vital to getting the perfect pictures. How can you ensure that the professional you pick understands all of your requirements and desires? Getting some important information from potential wedding photographers will help you make a decision about the selection.

The Cost

How can the cost of your wedding photos be computed? Is the wedding photographer willing to travel to a particular location? The cost of getting to your wedding day venue could have some impact on the last figure, which is why you need to discuss this aspect of the collaboration in advance.

Make sure there are no concealed costs and unexpected surprises. The best wedding photographers will give you a detailed estimate that will covers all aspects of working together. Make sure that you are getting all of this information in advance to enable you to choose in accordance to your wedding budget.

The Method of Photography

Each photographer has a particular style that is evident once you go through the portfolio. Like a bride, you have a particular idea System.Drawing.Bitmap wedding photo style. You simply need to find the professional that will be capable of executing the idea.

Keep family members out of the selection process! Everybody includes a particular idea and a personal sense of aesthetics that could be quite completely different from what you are looking forward to. Go through wedding photography portfolios with your mate and make the final decision without counting on input from relatives and close friends.

Once you make up your mind, speak with the shortlisted photographers about it. Professionals in the field should understand your concept right from the start and give you suggestions which will result in an even more spectacular photo program. Getting some information about the pros and the cons of the photography style that you are interested in can also shed some light on the best possibility.

How Many Photos will You Get?

Reputable wedding photographers will give you a photo amount estimate right from the start.

The amount of photos that will be included in the album as well as the number of hours that the professional will certainly dedicate to photographing your wedding are both important for figuring out whether this is the person to work with. You want all aspects of the wedding ceremony to be captured and the more you obtain from the interactions with the wedding professional photographer, the happier you will be with the result.

Personalisation

Are the wedding photographers you are interested in working with giving you any personalisation opportunities? Are you going to get suggestions about the selection of the best wedding album style?

Some photographers will take the service to the next level. They will develop special, unique products solely for the wedding. Photo thank-you cards for all of the guests are just one such example. Talk to the photographer if you have interest in getting unique photo souvenirs and discuss the possibilities in advance.

Author’ s Bio:

Richard Galloway is an award-winning professional photographer and considered one of the best reportage wedding photographers within Surrey. Creating story-telling photographs given that 2007, he specialises in documentary (reportage) wedding photography.

Or just call for a chat about your special day time: 01252 835 981

postheadericon ten Reasons For Not Falling in Like

Although you might think associated with “ falling in love” because romantic; we all fall in love often times in life: with a new lover, a new friend, a particularly cooperative co-worker, an appealing film or TV star, a patient neighbor, siblings, relatives and even domestic pets. Any close relationship …

postheadericon Dear Dr . Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn’t had sex within years.

Dear Doctor RomanceI am in my forties, plus hadn' t had sex within years. I met someone and CLICKED. We had sex  on the second date, I know you can' to unring the bell, and I' m betting that was probably an error, but  there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself …

postheadericon Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend.


Last year, he disagreed with some advice I gave him. He said I was a false friend, that proved that I didn’ t care about him at all, and a lot of other accusations. I let it go.

When he was diagnosed with cancer, and I was by his side all the time, encouraging him to eat
right and follow the treatment he wanted to abandon. I went to his city so we could meet, but he didn’ t give me a single call during four days I was there. He told me he had surgery but he never let me know in advance.

Dear Reader:

Thank you for reading my blog.

Author’ s Bio:

Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever. com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon Are You Changing Enough?


It’s very interesting to me to watch couples struggle and go around and around… I find that this happens with the ones where partners refuse to take ownership of their own contribution to their relationship’s status quo and are fixated with having their partner change… These are the partners that also are waiting for the magic pill and for me to fix their partner. I have a bit of news for these partners – it ain’t gonna happen!

When partners wait for the other to change, they are waiting. When they wait, they are wasting the moment and the opportunity to have something different – right there and then! If this resonates a bit with you, in that you are waiting for something different in the interaction, I implore YOU to do something differently, to mindfully, respectfully, caringly, and compassionately reach out to your partner about it.

When an interaction is going south, take a step back and see how you are provoking the situation. How you are inviting your partner’s reaction. How you are pushing their buttons, triggering them. How you are hurting your partner. Instead of focusing on how your partner is going about this all wrong, stop your approach and try something different – the more loving and compassionate approach. We all just want to be understood, accepted and loved at the end of the day. Give that to your partner

Please STOP your approach NOW and try something different. Stop going at it from a wounded, deprived, violated and entitled perspective and be NICE! YOU invest TLC. YOU invest compassion, understanding, love, and affection. YOU start and continue to use your partner’s love language and stick to it no matter what. YOU have the power to invite your partner to a different moment. YOU have the power to break the impasse and seduce your partner. YOU CAN DO IT!

Remember, challenging situations are opportunities for healing, growth, and change. Go about this as if this was a course on change you want to ace. Make believe each interaction is a test… Prep for it, research, get your resources, be at your best, and a have a plan of action to ace your test… Give it your all. Give it your genuine, Authentic all, not your egocentric all… Stop waiting and change your relationship right now.

Complete the MetroRelationship (sm) Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your spectacular relationship. Share your thoughts and progress on our blog page!

Happy Changing!

Author’ s Bio:

About Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT (Metropolitan MFT)
I’ m the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC (Metropolitan MFT), a private psychotherapy practice specializing in working with couples. I help couples succeed at their relationship by assisting them get on the same page and deeply understand each other, repair hurts, create intimacy, stay connected, share passion, and tap into their synergy. I specialize in pre-marital, codependence, reactivity / anger, and infidelity work.

postheadericon Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy?


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Dear Reader:

Author’ s Bio:

Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever. com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

postheadericon ***A Dating Coach’s Reflections on twelve Years of her Marriage!

We have had our ups and downs and some big challenges. Challenges that I have seen sever other marriages: starting a business that took years to get off the floor; 5 years of fertility treatments, as well as looking at other options such as adoption; job losses due to the nature of the husband’s volatile work environment; health issues; and a challenging child with special requirements. And both of us are far from perfect with our warts on both in our sides.

When I trainer with my clients, I educate them to look for the values which are important to them that need to be in-line with a life partner and those that may vary that need to be supported. My husband and I reveal those critical core relationship beliefs. The ones that are different, he supports.

So far we made it through the 7 year itch as well as the terrible tens! I don’t know what difficulties, disappointments or joys are forward for us. However , I do know we every have a commitment to the relationship and to our son to nurture plus protect this relationship.

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postheadericon The reason why Do “Friends” Often Turn Out To Be “Energy Vampires”?


Are you one of those people who craves to have friends around you any most of the time? If so have you ever wondered exactly what motivates your craving? Have you ever asked yourself how discriminating you are when it comes to the types of people you choose to invite into your life and into your energetic space?

Well if you feel a lot more frustrated, annoyed, unheard, depleted, embarrassed, diminished, invisible and so on after spending time with your “ friends” then it probably means your choices have been less than critical.

So why do people choose to spend time with others who diminish rather than invigorate, uplift, and energize them?

Well when there is a “ need to have friends” based on:

1 . The fear to be alone.

2 . The need to be loved liked or valued.

3. The need to be studied care of or rescued.

4. The need to feel like part of something.

5. The need to be accepted.

6. The worry of being left out.

7. The need to be valued and/or authenticated.

How can one enhance their capability to accurately discern who is right and who is not?

Properly discernment is based on the ability to feel how another person affects your Life Force Energy or what is generally called “ one’ s energy”. I’ meters sure the term “ energy vampire” is familiar to you. Energy vampires are individuals who consciously or subconsciously feed off of other peoples’ energy in order to make themselves feel whole, total, powerful, superior, impressive, and so on.

The reasons listed above for being drawn into such relationships in the first place are usually rooted in early negative experiences in your life, stored as negative memories, that have programmed you in those ways i. e. to feel afraid and needy.

Basically said that all of those experiences actually endure in the way of you ever being liberated to feel at ease and to draw the right kind of friends into your life how would that feel to you? Probably annoying because there is no way to undo individuals experiences is there?

Properly that’ s where the story requires a dramatic turn. It’ s actually possible to permanently release individuals negative experiences from within once and for all with a new process called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

This will not only spontaneously help you to feel and be more critical but it will literally change the quality of individuals who you draw into your sphere of friends.

If you would like to experience this process kindly visit the web link below where you can choose a free introductory telephone/Skype coaching discussion.

Author’ t Bio:

Nick Arrizza, a former Doctor and Medical Doctor, is an International Specialist Self Empowerment Life Coach, Romantic relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author as well as the developer of the powerful Mind Reverberation Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to protect your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Beloved Dr . Romance: I want to find me personally


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Dear Reader:

It sounds like you’ re using responsibility for your dishonesty, which is a great start. There is probably a way to make it up to your guy, and have a good chance of working it away with him.

You will find good reasons to lie to a companion (no, dear you don’ big t look as if you’ re obtaining older) and bad reasons (I have no idea how that happened towards the car. ) The trick is to know which you’ re doing. Informing the truth is not always easy, and, within rare cases, not wise. However we should all learn how to do it, plus know when to ‘ fess up, and when to keep your lips zipped.

Usually, the betrayal involved in finding out a key is more damaging than what happens whenever you tell the truth.

Laying to your partner about whether you might have broken an agreement does more damage than breaking the agreement. If you slide up, tell the truth and know how to make an effective apology.

Here are 4 Steps to an effective apology:

1 . Surrender for your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it plus apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be scared of punishment or rejection – apologizing makes it easier to be forgiven.

3. Follow the following design for apology:
2. Admit your mistake: Speak straight to the person to whom you need to apologize.
* State what you did (so the person knows you’re aware)
* Say you’re apologies
* Do a re-take: Explain what change you’ll make to repair it, and so it won’t take place again
* Say “I hope you can forgive me. ”

4. If that doesn’t work, ask the other person what he or she wants you to apologize intended for (in case you misunderstood your own mistake)

Author’ s Bio:

Tina B. Tessina, Ph. D. is a licensed psychotherapist within S. California since 1978 along with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and writer of 13 books in seventeen languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The particular Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Cash, Sex and Kids: Stop Combating About the Three Things That Can Mess up Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. The girl writes the “Dr. Romance” weblog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Doctor Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever. com, a web site designed to strengthen relationships and information couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Doctor Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC Information.